My own belief is that many people can make a sexual relationship work with someone who isn't their preferred type for awhile, but it can be hard to sustain over time especially if they are sexually exclusive.
WORD. I've seen the same with couples where one is into hardcore S&M and the other is vanilla, and even flexible vanillas tend to get a problem when the kinks are heavy and/or needed a lot. I love that saying that sex is 20 percent when it works and 80 percent when it doesn't work, so I see it as mandatory that in every relationship, people feel good about the sex level they have. It may look like little from the outside, but it's all in the personal perception.
I agree that in Kirk/Spock, the magic Vulcan bond could fix that divergence in sexual preferences. OTOH, in my brain, Kirk will always have sex with women once in a while. My TOS K/Mc was always more on the fuckbuddies edge - great friendship and real love but the sex is not exclusive.
Glad to hear that it works for you in Draws. And he, with Dael in the mix it will be... interesting, to say the least :)
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Date: 2010-01-09 12:17 pm (UTC)WORD. I've seen the same with couples where one is into hardcore S&M and the other is vanilla, and even flexible vanillas tend to get a problem when the kinks are heavy and/or needed a lot. I love that saying that sex is 20 percent when it works and 80 percent when it doesn't work, so I see it as mandatory that in every relationship, people feel good about the sex level they have. It may look like little from the outside, but it's all in the personal perception.
I agree that in Kirk/Spock, the magic Vulcan bond could fix that divergence in sexual preferences. OTOH, in my brain, Kirk will always have sex with women once in a while. My TOS K/Mc was always more on the fuckbuddies edge - great friendship and real love but the sex is not exclusive.
Glad to hear that it works for you in Draws. And he, with Dael in the mix it will be... interesting, to say the least :)