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[syredronning]

Thanks to everyone who participated in my Weight poll! I think the results are interesting and partly encouraging (so people really can lose weight even though they feel it's a part of them :).

I also found it rather interesting and telling that so many of us think round women are beautiful, except for ourselves! Duh, illogical humans :) Congratulations to everyone who manages to feel beautiful, no matter the weight.

Happy weekend, everyone!

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[fer-de-lance.livejournal.com]

many of us think round women are beautiful, except for ourselves

Maybe not so illogical as all that. After all, I see many beautiful round women walking around, but I've never seen them up close and naked the way I see myself. I'm not close enough to really "see" them as anything beyond "not a troll, do not run screaming". :D Even the ones I know and love are at a step removed; I do not share a shower with them or see them undressed in the stark light of the bathroom mirror, the way I see myself and my weight. Combine this with the fact that most people are surprised when I tell them how much I weigh, and I can guess that I carry it pretty well -- my clothes/build combine to disguise it. But that's not the way I see myself; when thinking of my weight, I'm thinking of peering down my belly and thighs at the scale readout, or sucking in my middle to get my old jeans to fit so that I don't have to go buy the next size up.

In a lot of ways, I think that only one's own weight is "real" to one. Unless they're wearing shrink-wrap Spandex, I don't see overweight women as "ack, look at the way my arm flab hangs" and "if I gain half a pound more I'll have to wear a size 16!" and "good grief, my butt never used to be wider than the toilet seat!" I just notice, in a distant sort of way, that that person over there isn't skinny. (If morbidly obese, I may pause to marvel at her mobility/ponder how she plans to fit in these ittybitty airplane seats/whatever. But it's still a ten-second mental detour, not a 25-year-long relationship!)

[syredronning.livejournal.com]

Hi fer_de_lance,

well, my life I'm close enough to round women to see them in various states of undressed or without clothes :) And I still _never_ think "how ugly" *G*

Actually, I think most round women look best without clothes. Clothes always get in the way of the natural fall of body fat *G*

I'm not sure how I feel about Nimoy's "Full Body Project". Pictures are different to real life to me at that point. I'm more critical to people on pictures, probably because they just brutally display the naked "truth". A naked person is always much more than just 2D, it's personality and behavior and usually friendship there.

[fer-de-lance.livejournal.com]

((Laughs)) Well, that might account for some differences. I'm pretty much asexual, and definitely hetero in mind, with personal-space boundaries a mile wide, so no, naked women of any shape aren't part of my personal experiences. Who knows, if they were, maybe I'd still think they were different. :D

Nimoy's "Full Body Project"

I'm not familiar with this project -- what is it, exactly? It sounds interesting, though you're definitely right about 2d images not capturing the real/full reality of a person! :D Expression and action is so much a part of "beauty", however and whoever's defining it.

[syredronning.livejournal.com]

Nimoy's Full Body Project is here:

http://www.leonardnimoyphotography.com/7body.htm

:) Thanks for your interesting reply!